Diabetes is considered a chronic illness which in increasing in older adults. People who are diabetics need support, compassion, encouragement and understanding. They don’t need to be made to feel guilty about their condition. Here are a few thing that they would like you to know. – MDA

By Jeanette Terry PA

As diabetics, we need our loved ones to be compassionate, supportive, and understanding.
Sometimes people are just annoying, inconsiderate and unaware when talking to someone with chronic illness. There, I said it. Those of us living with a chronic disease like diabetes have felt this kind of frustration towards someone at some point. In fact, I am sure everyone has felt frustrated with the ignorance of another person in varying situations and circumstances. As someone living with diabetes, I used to get quite embittered and often embarrassed when people were impolite or just didn’t understand what I was going through.

It doesn’t really bother me much anymore. I guess I have developed a thick skin when it comes to dealing with lack of knowledge about diabetes—there aren’t many things pertaining to diabetes that make me uncomfortable anymore. But diabetes can be a very sensitive subject and hard to talk about so I would like to write this to all of you that have a loved one or someone that you associate with that is living with diabetes.

If you truly want to help your loved one, do all you can to learn about diabetes. Here are a few things that we as people living with diabetes would like you to know:

We Feel Bad and We Don’t Know Why

Sometimes people with diabetes just don’t feel well. We don’t know what is causing it exactly, but we know that something is off with our diabetes. When you ask what is wrong and I can’t tell you, just accept that as my answer. And don’t think that I am making it up to get sympathy from you. It is real, and if you had diabetes, you would know.

We Get Emotional

It is important for you to understand that a lot of the time the biggest struggle with diabetes is emotional and psychological. Just because I look fine doesn’t mean it is true. Diabetes has a strong emotional impact so I am sorry if I lash out for what may seem like no reason or sob on your shoulder or take you on my crazy emotional roller coaster with me. If I am being unreasonable please consider my diabetes before you jump to other conclusions.

We Don’t Need Critiques

The next thing to know is that it is really annoying when my food choices are critiqued. I know that you may mean well by pointing out every unhealthy food choice I make, but please keep it to yourself! Unless I have specifically asked you to help me with my diet, let me eat a few scoops of ice cream in peace.

We Can’t Control Everything

Diabetes changes and can be unpredictable. When I struggle to keep my blood sugars stable, don’t keep reminding me that I would feel better if I were to get my blood sugars under control. As a diabetic, who frequently visits the doctor and measures my blood sugar daily, I know that. I can’t just make a change and magically my blood sugar levels will be perfect. Diabetes management is a system of trial and error. If one thing doesn’t work then it is time to try something different. So I can’t just “do better”. But I do need some encouragement to stick with it.

We Need Your Support

The most important thing that those who don’t have diabetes should know is that living with diabetes is hard. You have to be a very strong person to be able to deal with diabetes on a daily basis. When you look at us, it may not seem like we are struggling. Even though we have a smile on our face, we may simply be fooling you. Know that it takes a LOT of work to have good diabetes control. Sometimes diabetics can feel lonely when we don’t feel like we can share our feelings and struggles. We need your support and love more than anything else.

Please just ask me about my diabetes and how I feel. The more we share, the more confident we can become in controlling this disease…..

read more: http://www.diabeticconnect.com/diabetes-information-articles/general/1152-5-things-diabetics-wish-you-knew

 Source: Diabetic Connect

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